“Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.”
It is 520 today, 20th of May, where for Chinese we would translate it to “I love You” （我爱你）. Many would celebrate the day with loved ones secondary to valentines’ day. I would love to dedicate this post to everyone, about giving more self love and at the same time more love to others too.
Self love is has a thin line with being self fish and a huge gap with being self less, which then could be hard for one to define. Self love is when one honour our needs before others, fill our own cup first before filling others’ cups. Simply put, when one love and accept oneself.
I love and accept myself fully.
Simple practises of self love including give time for yourself, fill your needs, express your love to yourself and give the best to yourself.
Create self love ritual like
- applying coconut oil to your skin before sleep,
- eating only nourishing food to fuel your body,
- having screen-off Sunday to focus on your relationships with your love ones,
- walking in the nature to breath fresh air,
- spending quality time to meditate,
- taking time off to go for a vacation,
- telling yourself what do you love about you,
- having self love support group with self love practises weekly.
The list could go on. The first step is just to give ourself permission to love ourselves now. Then take baby step towards it. You are destined to be successful.
The best reward after these practises, I noticed people around me started to do so too. Love it! That’s when we spread ripples of love to the world, starting from ourselves.
One grateful thoughts now:
We are alive. Put that big smile on your face already. =)
Self love. It doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy you. Tony A Gaskins Jr.
A BOOK TO READ
I read a book called “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Riuz, it is based on Toltec wisdom that has been passed on from thousands of years ago.
The Four Agreements:
- The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word
- The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally
- The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
- The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best
It has been my guide for 3 days, where I kept on reminding myself about the agreements. Get the book and practise the exercises given about recreating Book of Law, and the 4 agreements step by step. I just love it.
You may Read Brian Johnson’s notes here: https://experiencelife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/28-the-four-agreements.pdf.
A VIDEO TO WATCH
Watch Teal Swan’s Self Love -The Great Shortcut to Enlightenment:
I love how Teal explain as every word would hit me to my core. High suggested to watch her video to find out if it helps you too. =)
But, we can always ask ourselves this question when we need to make a decision, as Teal Swan suggested,
“Ask what would someone who loved themselves do?”
Have a lovely week fill with love from within. =)