It has been two months after my second 10 days Vipassana meditation. This second revisit experience created a much more intense yet deeper realisation of the truth. After all, I aim for practical use of the technique after the 10 days.
The journey after the second experience is very much differ from the first. I am able to maintain at least 2 hours of meditation daily until now. Hereby, I am sharing my learnings and tips to maintain the daily practise.
The below learnings are more suitable for those who have been through the 10 days meditation who needs help in maintaining daily sitting. Or for those who are interested to know more about Vipassana meditation.
Here are the 5 Lessons from my Second Experience:
I believe everyone will have their own version of lessons, these are mine.
1. I learned to Observe the reality as it is rather than the imagination from the mind. When in silence, with anapana technique, which focus on the natural breath, I am connected to my essence, being aware of the self created image since young which is shaped by the society to fill the need of being like by others. I slowly detach myself with the imagine person, it felt so much lighter and surreal. With Vipassana, this time, I learned the importance of sensations from the body, where there are only two things to focus on during meditation, sensations and breathing. With the focus on sensations, I am aware of my craving to the things I love & aversion to the things that irritates me but not react based on these emotions, to respond with a smile. That is the essence of Vipassana meditation, to train the mind to a habit of not reacting to craving and aversion.
2. I am learning to Detach from the “I”/”Me”/”Mine” (mind thought, body pain) & person (family, partner). Thoughts will be lingering, wandering in the mind of past and future, the mind does not has the habit of staying in the present moment. Present moment meaning being here and now, when I am meditating, this is the ‘now’ moment, during this moment, there is nothing to worry about. But the mind has a habit of visiting the past or creating the future. I learned that these thoughts are not the essence of self, I learned to observe the thoughts as third person, and same as the body. The legs felt pain after long hours of sitting in the same pose, I learned to observe the pain and detach from it. It works the same for people too, to detach from clinging and depending on others. I learned to detach from my family members and my love ones, to be responsible for my own feelings – be it misery or happiness.
3. I am learning to Accept the reality of impermanence in life. Life events are constantly changing, which mostly are not controlled by us, thus, I learned that I can only control my own emotions, feelings, behaviour and actions. It all started with mental projections to voice projections and towards taking action. So it utterly important to start with our mindset in respond to the changes in life. I accept that 100% of my misery & my happiness comes from me, not from the life events or people. I am learning to Love & have compassion to all beings, no matter what happen that is unfavourable to me, no matter what people say about me, I am aware of the words and opinions are the person viewpoint, which is not the truth, as I understand myself, there will be no need to react, unless one’s action has crossed the limit which I will speak up. This is rather important for me. To be comfortable in expressing my needs.
The visible changes:
The invisible changes:
I felt lighter.
3. I choose to Forgive & Love with compassion, understanding when one is angry, one is suffering. Especially on my personal relationships with my family and partner, which would trigger my emotions most of the time. When one has anger, I learned that he or she is suffering inside, which anger is an emotion that portrays outside. This has been our reaction to undesired feelings, not everybody knows how to control own emotions. And most importantly, I would forgive myself if I reacted.
4. I would Take initiative to help and do the extra mile. I have been living in a comfortable situation with my parents taking extra care of me, one learning for me is to take the initiative to provide help in household.
5. I practise Smiling and greeting my neighbours and the workers in service industry. I would smile to people and send Metta to every being I passed by.
How to maintain the strong determinant of daily sitting?
- Find out more about Vipassana meditation here: http://www.malaya.dhamma.org/ (Malaysia).
- What is Vipassana? Vipassana, which means to see things as they really are, is one of India’s most ancient techniques of meditation. It was rediscovered by Gotama Buddha more than 2500 years ago and was taught by him as a universal remedy for universal ills, i.e., an Art Of Living. Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYTltgveKNc.